Talking to your child

Patience. Reassurance. Action.

Bedwetting is not your child’s fault, so it’s not something that should be punished. You may feel helpless and frustrated, but it’s important to reassure and support your child. Remind them that they’re not the only one and it can get better – perhaps it’s something you went through as a kid and conquered. Try asking your child a few questions to better understand what’s going on:

  • Did anything happen at school today that upset you?
  • Do you feel really upset after you wet your bed?
  • Does it hurt when you pee?
  • Could we try doing X tonight (e.g., drinking less, using the bathroom twice) and see what happens?
  • Is there something you don’t want to do?
  • How would you feel if we went to see our doctor to talk about it?

Then, discuss what you can both do to help stop it from happening, like establishing a night-time “checklist.” Try making it a game, or give stickers when your child completes each task. The checklist can include reminders for your child to:

  • Pee before bed, twice if they can
  • Don’t drink too close to bed
  • Not have cola or chocolate before bed
  • Use their treatment
  • Not be hard on themselves if it happens

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